It’s been said that love is “sweeter the second time around”, but planning a second wedding can quickly turn sour if wedding plans get off on the wrong foot. Let the professional Bucks County wedding planners of the Warrington Country Club guide you in the best customs and practices of a second wedding — so getting hitched goes without a hitch.
Here are the most frequently asked questions of encore brides and grooms:
- Q: Is it appropriate for the bride to wear white?
A: It is a myth that a re-bride cannot wear white. The beauty and freedom in the second wedding it that the bride is not bound to any particular custom or tradition. She can wear whatever looks best on her; be it ivory, cream, pink, yellow or any other color of her choice.
- Q: Should there be attendants?
A: The good news for the girlfriends of the bride is that a gaggle of identically dressed bridesmaids in a row probably seems out of place at a second wedding. That’s not to say that the bridal couple won’t benefit from the supportive presence of their children, friends, family and other loved ones. One maid of honor and one best man should probably do the trick.
- Q: Is a big splashy event tacky?
A: If the first nuptials for either party were a large, traditional occasion-to-remember style event, a splashy soirée the second time around may be too similar for comfort—especially if the first marriage ended badly. Furthermore, first weddings are often driven by the agenda (and wallets) of the couple’s parents, and frequently include many parent-inspired guests. A more mature couple, most likely footing their own bill, will probably desire a more intimate, low-key affair with the most important people of their choosing.This being said, the beauty of a second wedding is that there are no hard-and-fast rules. If either the bride or groom missed out on a big event the first time around and wants to celebrate large, there is nothing in the rule books that says they can’t.
- Q: What about the kids?
A: Absolutely include the children to the extent that they want to be involved. The best rule of thumb is to ask the children for their input, then respect their wishes and include them as much (or little) as they want to be included. There are endless ways to include the kids: a bride may have her son walk her down the aisle or have her daughter and or new step-daughter serve as the special attendant. A son may act as his father’s best man. Lighting a unity candle all together during the ceremony is a nice touch and symbolizes the blending of two families into one. Couples can incorporate “family vows” into the wedding vows during which the parents promise to love and care for their new step children. Having the new family sit together as one unit is a nice touch at the reception. Of course gift giving, before, during or after the event is always appreciated by youngsters. The point is to make the children feel important and valuable during this important time in their parents, and their own, life history.
Planning a second wedding need not be a source of anxiety. Ask the helpful wedding planners at the Warrington Country Club for guidance in making a “re-do” into the “must-do” event of a lifetime!! Call us at (215) 343-1630.